Sucka for a Gangsta

I used the word gangsta in the title just to be funny, It really should say "Sucker for a bad boy."
As girly and proper as we women can be (yes I am included in this one); why do we fall for the bad boys? The boys with swaggers like Jay-Z--Corporate in a sense, can wear the hell out of a suit and tie, business minded, intelligent, proper manners and etiquette, but on his own time--his relaxing away from business time; hes wearing a pair of rock & republic blue jeans with a Nordstroms tee, a zip up hoodie, gucci aviators, gucci belt, and a pair of forces. I just love it, and I cant help it. I guess I should have wrote reformed gangsta or reformed bad boy since I really don't want him packing knives and guns and getting us shot at you know. I just like for him to have that swagger, like I been there and done that but now I'm here and I know better. That swagger that just never leaves him. Then to add icing on the cake (for my own sake), he loves God, knows he needs fellowship, thanks God each and every day for his success, which allows him to take nothing for granted. I'm excited just writing about this LOL. Monica with Young Buck and C-Murder; Keyshia Cole with Jeezy; Beyonce with Jigga; Aaliyah and Damon Dash; Ashanti and Nelly; Actress Shanna Moakler-Barker and Travis Barker....hmmm even Vivica Fox and 5o cent LOL, maybe I wouldn't have chosen these men in particular for my own reasons, but I used them as simple illustrations of good girls who are "suckas for a gangsta." I just cant help the fact that I'm not into 24/7 corporate boys :--(. I might get some grief from this one LOL. Oh well its just for fun cause for sure if God intended for my knight and shining armour to be a geek/nerd and corporate at the same time then that's who I'll be walking down the aisle with :--) but until I meet him I'm gonna hope for him to be my swagger-licious reformed bad boy, oh and dark-chocolate,tall, with the body of an athlete hahahahahahaha

Love Metis

Take care of home

So of course it's no secret that I'm not a fan of cheaters [2 entries down from this post] and although I'm not giving them a valid excuse AT ALL [because I think cheating is a cowards way out of simple communication] I do however know that when we ladies don't take care of home, our men might get taken care of elsewhere. Taking care of home is not all about sex either, it is a major factor but its not the only factor[the sex advice is for married couples only, I repeat, married couples only. I am not in any way giving sex advice to unmarried women :--( sorry]
Now back to the point, it is so important to make sure that you have a happy man. Meeting all his needs and then some. If he likes chocolate buy him a case load of it, if he loves football get him season tickets to his favorite team. If you know your man loves seafood, then cook seafood for him until he passes out lol. What I'm trying to say here is, don't have your man wanting more from you cause you know just as soon as he starts feeling neglected, Betty Boop comes along at the perfect timing and she just so happens to love chocolate too, she even loves watching football and knows all the technical stuff about it, and Betty Boop can cook her some kickin seafood. See, before you know it, hes gone off with Betty Boop. Yeah you can say that he wasn't the man for you anyway, if you want to look at it like that, but I like to see things from all angles. I'm a old fashion kind of girl but I try [sometimes I fail] not to lean towards my viewpoints when I give advice because I know that it takes all kinds to make the world go round. Some women never want to get married, all they want to do is work, some women want to be housewives, some feel they should be the ones getting pampered not the man--but I feel this advice can be considered universal to all kinds of women. Actually I think I'm considered a new school old school girl. I believe in catering 100% to my man, cooking his meals, fixing his plate, washing his clothes, treating him nothing different then how a king would be treated, but I also believe in myself being treated nothing different then how a queen should be treated. Being surprised with a spa day and candle light dinner, little gifts here and there of some of my favorite items, a foot massage. [I know some one is reading this cracking up laughing saying this is so fairytale; and to you I want to say, you get what you expect, if your expectations are low then you will get a low standard man but if your expectations are high then you can get a man that fits in your high standards. Its about your approach, and ultimately its about you. What do you have going for yourself, what do you bring to the table] Okay now to the sex. Married people why do you hold sex from your spouses? Unintentionally and attentional, doesn't matter its wrong. Give that man all the sex he wants when he wants it and how he wants it and if you don't like it, don't fake it, learn to like it. Its so amazing how fun and exciting a relationship can be when you have two people who are not stubborn and selfish towards each other, who love to please one another, you'll find out that love can be so fun and can bring such happiness. To you celibates, let this post not discourage you. The way we cater to our man is the same, you just have to make sure you have the right man. Do not be with a man who is not celibate himself so even though you're giving him your all, you're still only pleasing him at a 80% level. Find the man that's right for you and your lifestyle so you can please him 100%.

Love, Metis

Different

Missing you
All of you
Wishing that I could be apart of you
Knowing that due to the heart of you
Everything I am would counter act all of you
Oil and water would best describe our lives
It’s impossible on this earth for our worlds to collide
Even as deep as the ocean that my love is for you
And the smile you bring to my face, I know that this fact is true
there will never be a me any where to where lies you
tears can begin to fall because reality is truth
and the truth hurts you know but what can you do
its better to live your life full of real and stick to God’s plan
because U-turns are non-existent why do things over and over again
hoping for something different is all I can say
I’m in this world full of battles just trying to win this race
If I get the heads up then possibly Love can again find its way
But if not I have to go with my gut and keep my space
I’ll wait
I’ll see
I’ll hope
I’ll believe

Love, Metis

No such thing as Celibacy in 2009.......

I would honestly believe this if it wasn't for the few people that I have around me who have vowed to be celibate until they are married. This is not a little vow to themselves or just for the moment, this is a vow made with God, which is far more deeper and way easier to uphold. SEX, such a small yet powerful word. This three letter word can ruin your relationship, your happiness, and even cause your relationship with God to be kind of shaky. Just think about that one time that you wished you never had sex with some one. You find out a few months after you meet him that he wasn't the man you thought he was, all these things start happening, and go figure you just slept with him for the first time, or you just started sleeping with him a few weeks ago. Imagine how relieved you would be to say oooh at least I didn't sleep with him. Why complicate things even more than what they are? Some women attach sex with feelings. Let me rephrase that, most women attach sex with feelings. Any way you put it SEX causes more headache and drama than pleasure. A relationship can be so much deeper, so much more if you eliminate sex from the equation. With all the drama that comes along with it, I was happy to kick the three letter word to the curb. No doubt there are going to be a lot of men, fine men at that, that wont be able to honor the celibacy until marriage rule, but just think, that man wasn't meant for you anyway. Or think about it like this, your husband is some where among the millions of men in the USA, but if you are celibate, your husband is now some where among less than 1 million men in the USA. I like the odds of the celibate person better :--)

Love, Metis

Cheaters

Hey you cheaters...

You get absolutely no love from me.

I just don't understand what the purpose of cheating is about. Why commit yourself to a person when you want the option to browse? Why not just stay single? Married people are worse. Why make a vow to God and then break it? There is not one excuse at all what so ever that any body can logically come up with to make cheating an okay thing. I'm sorry I just don't understand, I actually have no interest to ever understand because the answer could only be a bunch of bull. Sorry to be so mean but this a subject that irks me.

Love, METIS

Marriage

It has been constantly brought to my attention that the true value of marriage is slowly deteriorating. For example I am aware of a certain situation where a particular man has been living an extreme wild life but apparently he does have a main women who doesn't live in the same state as him. Now some of the women that he has had encounters with are arguing over him and some of the friends of the "encountered" are apart of the argument as well. (Arguing via internet) The argument is mainly about how the women is lucky, he bought her a huge ring, he takes her to private islands and etc. etc. It makes me so frustrated to see how any one in their right mind could believe they are lucky when they have a man who is openly and publicly dating other women. You couldn't buy me a big enough ring for me to be okay with that. What woman says yes to a man like that. Is she saying yes to the man or the ring????? I would be totally embarrassed to have my man's business out all over the internet about his rendezvous with various women. So why does this woman say yes to a man like that and why does some women think she is LUCKY because of the size of a ring. Its like women become oblivious to what marriage is and what they truly deserve. If he is acting this way now what makes you think hes gonna change when you finally say I DO.
In a way I feel sorry for this girl because she is soo lost. You can love some one but if things get out of hand you must definitely know when to let it go. God never attended for us to go through such pain for Love. This girl is clueless to the fact that she is being disrespected. Why allow such pain in your life just so you can say I have him. Maybe if he changed his ways (and I mean really changed his ways not trying to change) then you can continue on with the relationship but ladies we have o know when to let go. You might marry this man that you swear you love so much and miss out on the man that God truly intended to be for you.
So after I came across that situation, two more came about and I was like WOW just how many women totally ignore the big red neon warning signs? These are all women who have not yet gotten married and yet and still they choose to make things more complicated just to have their hopes fulfilled of that fairytale. These women are enabling the men to be the way they are because they know that they can come home to them regardless. I hope that somewhere along the road these women realize its not worth it. Pray about it, Let it go, and best believe God will guide you to true joy.

Love, METIS